I consider mindfulness one of the central ways we can unhook from self-limiting experiences and gradually gain more insight and understanding into the ways we avoid and negate undigested aspects and parts of our full totality. The full totality is not just a dissected version of who we want to be or an idealized glossy snapshot we want to portray.

It is much easier to approach your experience with curiousity and a sense of discovery. It is less helpful to reject yourself for certain inner struggles and get trapped in comparison or ideas about what is the standard way to be and behave. This in itself can lead to a lot of suffering and wanting to fix your experience, as if it isn't complete and perfect the way it is. It is much easier to pay attention to what is actually happening to you.