It is much easier to approach your experience with curiousity and a sense of discovery. It is less helpful to reject yourself for certain inner struggles and get trapped in comparison or ideas about what is the standard way to be and behave. This in itself can lead to a lot of suffering and wanting to fix your experience, as if it isn't complete and perfect the way it is. It is much easier to pay attention to what is actually happening to you.
That means having enough trust, vigilance and inner confidence to not freak out about what we are going to find. This is an opportunity each moment to not run off and to be willing to face ourselves even if we don't know what it means yet.
Many times paying attention to yourself is a dichotomy between hopes, wishes, wants, beliefs of what should happen or shouldn't happen and the immediate direct experience of the moment. The sacred nowness. This reveals itself if we become empty within ourselves, without having an agenda, and hoping to get rid of the issues so that we are finally free.
Letting go is about helping to see that we are not bound by what we perceive as a limitation. It is about transforming our perception from trying to free ourselves from limiting constricting content, to finding that free underlying awareness that is beyond any content, and has always been unchanged and complete.
Here are some helpful principles
1. Letting go is about trusting. I think that letting go requires one way or another some form of trust. There needs to be a gap to invite the unknown, and to break the mold of our unconscious repeating the same fixations over and over again.
2. Letting go means being present. Simply being present is a powerful way to not get caught up in every thought, to be able to discern and curiously relate to your experience without having to go for a specific result.
3. Letting go is about allowing space. Space is the most essential ingredient in letting go. The more you allow your experience and bring interest and openness to it, the less you will resist and hold on to a specific emotion, experience or thought.
4. Letting go is about not identifying. We all have deep structures in our unconscious that are worth exploring and not have them rule our life and freedom. When we are stuck or unable to move beyond a certain situation, it is our willingness to investigate what we believe and how we view the world, that will have us learn to be less confined and slowly loosen our preconceived notion of what it means to be human.
5. Letting go is finding OKness beyond condition. Coming from a perspective of underlying Okness regardless of your accomplishments, what you have done in the past and what capabilities you have developed, lets you gain access to live from a more fluid sense of self. When there is OKness we can find meaning amidst a challenging situation which supports ease and letting go.
6. Letting go is recognizing the mind's natural condition. Letting go is not easy for most of us, as we cling to the familiar. Our familiar sense of self prevents us from seeing the natural condition of our mind, the intrinsic nature of who we are. Seeing through our conditioning and habits of mind are important to reveal what is most fundamental and unchanging.
Bringing awareness to these areas is important and helps to introduce the possibility of freedom, of greater expansion and letting things be a teacher in your experience. This is the purpose of this blog and I hope you can join me by subscribing for updates - monthly and free - to stay in touch and let yourself be inspired.