I consider mindfulness one of the central ways we can unhook from self-limiting experiences and gradually gain more insight and understanding into the ways we avoid and negate undigested aspects and parts of our full totality. The full totality is not just a dissected version of who we want to be or an idealized glossy snapshot we want to portray.
It is an energetic potential that includes the whole range of being human and it isn't a simple clear cut road map we follow and then end up being all 'figured out and complete'. Mindfulness is a reminder that the moment we are born we change and things transform and we share impermanence as part of life's principle.
Learning about oneself is a way to penetrate the layers of unconscious patterning and holding on to a fixed view or perspective. Mindfulness is the spacious openness that allows without putting markers or conditions on what state, in what way, in what intensity should happen or how it should unfold. It's really a way to approach your own experience with less constriction and with a little more recognition of the vastness and potential that can unfold. Often this invitation and significant step is to stop interfering, meddling and controlling yourself in order to be more acceptable and loved.
Mindfulness is a different way of saying practice 'present moment awareness'. Hopefully this post will give you a few pointers that will help you along the way of recognizing how precious and valuable the moment to moment experience is and how this intelligent unfoldment helps us grow and learn to embrace our innate wisdom.
So here we go, 6 pointers towards mindfulness.
Simplicity: Staying in touch with that which is already whole within us. Not getting pulled into the periphery of life's challenges and circumstances. Allowing ourselves to abide in a simple state of being and not controlling the outcome of a situation. Being aware and simply present.
Innocence: Letting go of expectations. Being aware of how much we have a need to know what will happen next. How little we trust that there is nothing outside awareness as a source. Simply giving space to what is.
Honesty: Finding a way to be with what we avoid and making time for what is truly going on and is happening for us internally. Bringing our attention back to what is immediately going on.
Openness: Allowing to see with the eyes of wholeness and Okness. Having the willingness to stay present without running or escaping from what is happening. Finding freedom from limitation by choosing to include what is arising and finding the awareness that holds all polarities.
Warm Acceptance: Embracing your failings and incomplete understanding without entangling yourself in being small and without inner resources. Letting yourself have compassion and just taking one simple step at a time without adding further injury to yourself through judgment, comparison and rejection. Not engaging in self-criticism.
Restfulness: Being willing to take breaks. Not hasten from one task to the next. Giving space to yourself. Changing habits that keep you in the loop of doing without being aware and in attunement with yourself and that keep enforcing and continuing a sense of familiar overwhelm and stress.
The opportunity to be mindful is not coming up when you happen to feel calm or happen to be at ease or in a peaceful state, rather it enriches you the moment you abandon the idea that going on autopilot will finally help your situation.
Simply put having a mindful approach to your life helps to recognize that slowing down and having the courage to face why we engage in endless activity will bring greater happiness and new found trust that everything we need is available here in this moment.