5 Tips To Work With The Inner Critic

December 27, 2013 by Nicole Koch in How to's and tips

here are a number of ways our life gets optimized and finding a way to not let our inner critic take over is essential. The inner critic is a structure, usually internalized from our parental figures that makes sure certain standards are upheld and that we do not "step" out of line. It informs us frequently of behavioural limits and let's us know harshly when we have not met some unconscious image of how we have to behave. In short, the inner critic, keeps us limited and doesn't let us expand beyond a self-identity that is usually a tapestry of inner wounds, limiting beliefs, images and unconscious aspects from the past.

Change Is An Undoing

December 10, 2013 by Nicole Koch in Change And Inner Wisdom

Change and inner transformation often involves wanting to be free of certain habits, emotions, beliefs and limitations. Who wouldn't want to just suddenly be free of all conflict, pain, emotional issues and deep beliefs...?

So most of us set forth on a journey, and we try to change. We try all sorts of tools, and new techniques, we read all sorts of books, see a Counsellor or Coach and hope it will be finally bringing the freedom we seek.

Non-Interference And The Art Of Settling

December 03, 2013 by Nicole Koch in Lifestyle

Most often we try to hard. We control and push ourselvses. We want freedom and peace, and rest and relaxation. We want to be ourselves and learn more things. And be authentic. We search, and strive, and improve ourselves. We keep going and don't let ourselves deeply settle within.

We run after things, hope things get better, reject what is going on, and rarely just are present with what is.

Eliciting Values In 3 Simple Steps

November 26, 2013 by Nicole Koch in Change And Inner Wisdom

Values are usually connected to what is truly important to us, they are related to principles and standards we consider highly important. A value is not only a conceptual idea, it is related to an inner state and experience, so values are different qualities of inner experience. Some examples of values might be love, honesty, peace, integrity, creativity, joy and openness.

5 Tips In Overcoming Fear

November 20, 2013 by Nicole Koch in How to's and tips

I don't know about you, but most of us have conscious or unconscious fears, yet to be discovered, explored or digested. Fear is not just a thought, no, it has a definite effect on our physical body. It is emotionally difficult and stressful, and can paralyze us to take action, to make decisions or to move forward in life. Some of us will not even strive for the goals we have, because fear keeps us prisioner to our defined world view and set boundaries. Fearfulness leads to a limited way of thinking, and often times shuts down our rational mind, leaving us with reptilian instinctual responses of "fight or flight" and emotional distress.

7 Ways To Stay On Track

November 17, 2013 by Nicole Koch in Lifestyle

Here are some of the essential ingredients to overcome obstacles and to stay on track with your goals.

1. Develop confidence and steadfastness

One of the main ways to stay on track with any new habit, or goal you have set for yourself, is to be able to develop a degree of steadfastness. Steadfastness, is being willing and capable to stay with a goal, and to be able to let yourself be focused and in alignment with it, without distractions and excuses. As you develop that steadfastness, so does your confidence, and you become increasingly able to become focused and aligned without being thrown of track.