I don't know about you, but most of us have conscious or unconscious fears, yet to be discovered, explored or digested. Fear is not just a thought, no, it has a definite effect on our physical body. It is emotionally difficult and stressful, and can paralyze us to take action, to make decisions or to move forward in life. Some of us will not even strive for the goals we have, because fear keeps us prisioner to our defined world view and set boundaries. Fearfulness leads to a limited way of thinking, and often times shuts down our rational mind, leaving us with reptilian instinctual responses of "fight or flight" and emotional distress.
What are some ways to overcome fear:
1. Learn to be with uncertainty and not knowing in a honest and vulnerable way. It's the best thing to do and it will help you grow.
A lot of our fears originate from the vulnerability of not knowing. We may at first not appreciate not knowing, and want to avoid it, and we may even feel like we are out of control, but learning to be with not knowing is a major step in dealing with fear.
Not knowing often gets misunderstood, as not being in control, or being incapable or stupid. But to let ourselves not know is to admit that our life, our breathing, or heartbeat is governed by a much larger law than what our limited mind could comprehend. Not knowing requires trust, and honesty and some humbleness, and it may actually help us connect more deeply and find our deepest wishes fulfilled.
2. Watch your thoughts, and check your emotions and know that you are larger than your fears.
Learn to witness your fear. Do not act on it or try to suppress it. Just calmly stay present to it. It helps to learn practices that will help you connect with your body for example meditation, or mindfulness practices. It's a great way to train yourself to be able to hold emotions without having to react to them and without deeply getting pulled into them without awareness. It's like learning a skill, in time you are able to be with emotions, and hold them without letting yourself be overwhelmed.
Methods and different tools are available to work with yourself, to not be bound by the fears that are present for you or you may have encountered before. Every time you step out of your comfort zone and take a leap of faith you are saying yes to trust and life, and not letting yourself be bound by beliefs, feelings and emotions that keep you small and defined.
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3. Work with your triggers, and find out what triggers your fears.
Most of us have little or no awareness, that fear is triggered by specific situations, circumstances or people. It may be that we are thinking about a future event and begin feeling stressed and fearful. We may anticipate a conversation with our boss or a person that is difficult, and begin to experience sensations of fear. We may not fully know what triggered the emotion, but it is important to find out and discover what are "buttons" in your life that get you into a non-resourceful state. Have you ever wondered about the 7 Things Fear Has Stolen From You?
4. Take action and let fear be what it is.
Allow your fear and act according to what you know is true and important anyway. If you want to be real and authentic, it is necessary to have a willingness to be courageous and to expand and optimize your life, without being squished and made small by your fears.
Be aware that fear is something that is not ultimate and that asking the question "What are the worst things I BELIEVE that could happen?" is a great way to move out of stagnation. Letting yourself be real involves getting into the messiness of deep inspiration and deep loss and fear. We need to learn to embrace fear and get on going with courage.
5. Learn to not get hooked by desire or fear.
What we fear, is intrinsically linked with what we desire. We may desire money, and are frightened by poverty, we may fear isolation, but may have issues around genuine and deep connections. It is important to learn to see through our own polarities and overcome some of the inner attachment for what we desire and what we fear. It is only possible by letting ourselves deeply explore our innermost landscape.
There is a great way to work with the desire and fear polarity by using the Four Square Technique.