When we get stuck, it feels like things are not moving forward. We seem to not know what to do and we seemingly end up unable to take the next step.
Stuckness is not easy to be with. For once, it leaves us helpless, often immobilized to the possibilities of life. What is more, often we do not have any idea what to do about it, as our mind circles around in familiar patterns, flying through the same orbit over and over again.
Stuckness is not only a state but an experience that encompasses feelings, emotions, thought patterns, values, beliefs, capabilities and actions.
You become stuck, by not letting yourself be with what is really true. It requires an enormous amount of effort to stay stuck, as life wants to unfold and evolve and continuous to flow into the possibilities of today.
What is a strategy to help you get unstuck
Explore your attachments
An interesting perspective on stuckness is that it may have to do with our attachment to things. This may include attachment to outcomes, ways of living, people in your life, certain skills or functions, and overall an attachment to your image of how things should unfold for you. Explore your attachments and journal about it if you wish.
Releasing attachments, letting go of people, situations, ideas, and functions we may have had, can take time, but it may surprise you that when you do, you tend to open up a vast amount of energy to live the life you were meant to express.
Notice your identifications
Stuckness is a direct result of us taking ourselves to be our patterns and images. We do not trust in a greater reality than our thought patterns, and believe ourselves to be our thoughts and emotions. This recognition will require for us to do the inner work of discriminating between our past conditioning and the sum of our conclusions, and the innate, unbound free awareness of the eternal now.
Discovery of who you are beyond your patterns
Then in time, not only do we discover that our internal patterns are not solid and real, we also begin to notice, that we are more than the stuckness, and we can find that who we are is not really bound by a specific situation or condition. It is a long but worthwhile road and to engage in human development and inner work is one of the most worthwhile things you can do for yourself.
Delight in baby steps
When we are stuck, we may feel a sense of overwhelm as well. We may be unclear on what the next step is and procrastinate and overanalyze our current situation. The best solution is to get moving, and to take a simple first step. Stuckness is a holding pattern, and so anything you do differently, even a small action step, can take you into a different energetic flow and help clear your current state.
Stuckness is a fixed position, and so letting yourself see what you are doing internally, to keep things the way they are, can allow things to flow and open up new pathways. When we fight with what is happening, we close the space for new possibilities, instead surrendering into the very moment will help be free from our own self-imposed limitations.
Lessons around stuckness involve
- Exploring commitment
- Holding on and letting go
- Awareness of a rigid perspective
- Clarifying your purpose
- Openness towards your experience
- Trust in unfoldment beyond your limitations
- Being in alignment
Stuckness is really the opposite of flow, and flow can be both an experience of free energy in your body, as well as a flow of situations and possibilities.