Life has many challenges. And there is a lot of learning and development necessary to recognize the simplicity and value of being here in this moment with full attention, focus and mindfulness.
The innate tendency initially is to hold on and to contract or tighten around situations that are not known, or have elements of newness or discomfort.
That is why mindfulness is so important. It relaxes the mind to simply observe what is going on in the present moment without judgment or expectation. Mindfulness is being able to relate to the present moment without struggle and with a sense of openness.
Letting go is more aligned with how things really are. Without it we suffer from our mind's' tendency to grasp certain situations, certain outcomes, and feeling certain feelings.
Letting go is the door into surrender. Because we choose to say yes to the truth of the moment, and not to our preference for how we want things to be.
Here are 7 tips for letting go
1. Do a regular check in with your body and allow your sensations.
Each time you check into your body, you let go of the habit to follow every thought in your mind, and connect back to the direct immediate living presence in this moment.
2. Choose your deep core values over reactivity and things going your way.
When you connect to your core values: e.g. love, peace, Okness, being, honesty...you can choose life over stuckness, and make each moment count as if it is the last. This will help you grow and learn about yourself on a much deeper level.
3. Ask questions inward instead of projecting and blaming the outside.
Bringing attention to yourself can help get out of the spin of making other responsible for your state or current difficulty. It helps to develop clarity for your own inner process and guides you to transform limiting aspects in yourself.
3. Recognize your pattern or tendency to get over-busy to avoid knowing what is going on for you.
For those of us getting caught up in too much work, this is a reminder to take it easy. Not because being productive isn't important, but because too much strain eliminates creativity and any kind of spontaneity which will help find new solutions.
4. Breathe. Focus. Take a few moments to center yourself in the moment.
And finally, focusing on your breath is really helpful in staying centered. If you want to be less stressed, focus on your breath, and forget about the task or challenge you were grappling with.
5. Notice when you procrastinate in taking action because you attach to a specific result or want to feel safe.
Here comes a helpful hint for those of us who have a habit of procrastinating on what we clearly know is important for our life. If you do not focus on the result, you can surrender to what you know is in alignment with your living on purpose and it is life affirming to not hold back on your gifts and contributions.
6. Learn to let experience happen without owning it or solidifying it with conclusions and evaluation.
The more we make our experience into a solid object, the less we are able to see our experience as fluid and tend to forget that change is as inevitable as the breath we take. It helps to not clutter our mind with conclusions that are not serving us and keep us imprisoned.
7. Do not identify with your experience or believe everything that your mind thinks.
Bringing awareness to your thoughts helps not to buy into every thought that enters your mind. It takes practice not to identify with our thinking, and in time we are able to witness our experience without losing awareness of our own intrinsic awakeness.
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