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If you have read articles on this blog previously you may have read the post A Strategy To Get Unstuck.
In this post I wanted to focus more on principles to get you unstuck.
Stuckness is a common experience for many people. We get stuck around emotional patterns, behaviour, or habits and views. Often we end up resisting change or find it difficult to implement the changes we believe would be helpful to our situation.
We may feel stuck when
- We don't make progress in a certain are in our life.
- We feel like we are repeating the same patterns over and over again.
- We don't know what direction to take.
- We don't know about what we value.
Stuckness is absence of movement, creativity, and flow. The dynamism of life is limited and we feel out of touch with possibilities and inner resources.
Often times, we don't know how to pay attention to ourselves, or what to pay attention to, to move into a different state or transform our limitation.
It is necessary to learn that we can let ourselves be and notice what wants to emerge and teach us the next step.
We get stuck in our various preferences and attachments about what we want, not allowing new possibilities to flow in.
1. Every difficulty or issue is a doorway.
What we lose touch with often is the inevitable dynamism of life along with the trust that change is possible. It is easy to get wrapped up in wanting to get rid of, or solving an issue, without ever recognizing that it is the entryway towards greater clarity and expansion. Not only that, being in touch with what is really truly going on for us, not rejecting it, and being open to the unique learnings, will unravel the inner gifts.
2. Allow your experience. Hands off.
Rejection, judgement and insensitivity towards ourselves, will close down our experience. We cannot truly get past any issue by trying to bypass it, get rid of it, or simply trying to pretend it isn't happening. We need to really be open and take the time to explore what is really going on for us.
There is no miraculous way that will suddenly dissolve all our concerns, but if we let ourselves feel the impact of our conditioning, we can find a new center amidst the various waves of life's challenges.
Being open means letting yourself have your experience without constantly interfering with how it's unfolding. Be kind and holding to yourself without needing the experience to change. It will bring flow, and natural spontaneous insight can arise about what your situation is about.
3. Letting go.
Usually we get stuck when we do not let go; we expect things to go the way we want them to without leaving space for new options. It is important to let go of identifications, beliefs and expectations once you see them for what they are, and move beyond a certain outcome or fixed assumptions. This often means embracing paradox or opposite states, without staying in a certain push-pull that keeps us going in circles. It requires a love for the truth and honesty to let go and a discovery that who we are is beyond stuckness.
What is your experience around getting unstuck? Did you find this post helpful? Feel free to share it.