Contact me for a Free Discovery Session. Change and Transformation will not happen without the heart being involved. Without the heart there is no guidance, no real contact and knowing where we are at.
The heart is at the center of the inner search and eventually all path lead to a greater openness of the heart. Qualities of compassion, kindness, curiousity, courage and love are intrinsic capacities of the heart.
I invite you to explore what limits you in getting in touch with your heart:
1. Rejecting And Judging Your Experience
One of the layers to explore and inquire into is our continuous habit of judging and rejecting the experience of the moment. We may think: "I shouldn't be feeling this right now..." or "I should be feeling a different feeling..." and in the process do not recognize that we are rejecting ourselves.
What is required is the kindness and compassion to let ourselves experience what is happening in the moment, and start with small steps. It would be kind to explore why you are feeling sad, or why you believe feeling certain feelings is unacceptable.
2. Holding On To Fixed Positions And Ideas Of How Things Should Unfold
A lot of times we identify with thoughts, and ideas of how things should be going for us. We may not be willing to just simply let go and dive into the experiential field of our experience in the moment. It is healing to look at what is happening for us without trying to change it.
Being in touch with the heart is being in touch with where we are at experientially in the moment, even if we feel emotional pain, conflict or tiredness.
3. Not Wanting To Feel Vulnerable Feelings And Suppressing Them
If we cannot allow vulnerability, it is difficult to truly get in touch with ourselves. If we defend or guard ourselves, the permeability and sensitivity we can experience gets dampened and we will not allow contactfulness with our heart.
It is important to learn to tolerate vulnerability and not knowing so that new facets of our experience can open up and we can feel directly into our heart.
4. Avoiding Letting Yourself Feel Pain Or Uncomfortable Emotions
Most of us want to avoid pain and not face uncomfortable emotions directly. We seem wired for getting away from what is not pleasant and this tendency is not really helpful to our inner development. It takes a certain kind of surrender and trust to open up into the uncomfortable corners of ourselves, and to feel friendly towards the places that hurt or have been shoved away since a while.
5. Being Unable To Soften In The Face Of Hardship Or Difficulty
When we avoid pain or hurt, we often tend to close down and respond by trying to become impenetrable. We feel it is safer for us not to be in touch with our immediate sense or feelings in the heart.
If we find a little bit of softness, and lovingness towards our situation it will help to not identify with our feelings so intensely and to learn to embrace what is happening with acceptance and kindness.
6. Not Listening To Intuition And Taking Steps In Alignment With Your Inner Messages
When we ignore our intuition, it leads to circumstances and action steps that are not in full support of our situation, and we may continue patterns that keep us limited and focused on familiarity and inner unrest.
It is helpful to allow inner messages and intuition and trust that we are guided and moved through evolutionary stages towards expansion of consciousness and realization of who we are beyond our conditioned view.