There is learning in every failed attempt, or perceived mistake. What counts is that you do not devalue yourself. Many times, you might have goals, and you might not accomplish them initially.
When you devalue yourself you limit your potential, your creativity and what you can achieve. And it is a habit or pattern that can be changed.
You might not learn a skill easily, or feel incapable around learning a certain task. You require more time, and feel you should have succeeded much quicker.
Insights, or really important changes are diminished through devaluing yourself, and you cannot really grow and learn effectively without full appreciation and warm kindness.
1. Celebrate Every Small Accomplishment
As you move towards your goals, it is important to recognize that every small step counts. Do not disregard any small effort you are making to move towards the goal. Celebrate it, acknowledge it, and let it create momentum.
2. Get Someone To Keep You Accountable
It is very important to have a system in place to keep you accountable, for example hiring a Life Coach or working with a Counsellor are ways to keep your intentions clear and maintain focused consistent action steps to get results. Learn more about these services by considering booking a free discovery session. Declaring and committing to specific goals, and maintaining what is important, can be considered an aspect of valuing yourself.
3. Cease Postponing The Essential
One way of devaluing yourself is to criticize yourself and procrastinate on what you truly want. The better strategy is to 'act as if' you were already able to move forward and let go of objecting to your being someone who contributes and is making a meaningful difference.
4. Get The Resources You Need, Instead Of Just 'Making It Through'
Instead of trying to stay in your comfort zone, making the least impact and have very few needs, give space to investigating the help and resources you need to work through your challenges. Value yourself and give yourself the help you deserve. Let yourself shift the 'scarcity attitude' you have and contemplate what is possible in your life.
5. Catch Your Self-Judgment And Criticism
Avoid criticizing yourself, putting yourself down in conversations, or using a negative internal dialogue on yourself. Inner criticism is a key way of devaluing yourself, and it is important to catch yourself when you do so, and let go of an idealized image of yourself. Be kind and use your standards to support you - not trap you. Let go of having to be 'perfect'.
6. Be With People Who Appreciate You
It is crucial to spend time with people who care, appreciate you and value you. It will create a field in which you can develop appreciation for yourself more easily, and avoid the spiral of inner self-criticism.